Half-Day Virtual Retreat
Family Archaeology
Home for the Holidays from the Attachment Perspective
Learn . Practice Meditation . Integrate . Q&A
SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 16TH
9AM-1PM PT / 12PM-4PM ET
Return home without the negative reactivity, tension or old patterns haunting your holidays. Enjoy your time together from a place of clarity, compassion and happy engagement.
Are you on the path of attachment healing, and want to learn how to navigate family time in a way that honors your needs and vision for your life?
If so, then this retreat was designed especially for you.
Can you relate?
👉🏼 You’re stuck in a role-based family system, playing a role that you no longer want to play in the family (but you don’t know how to change this dynamic and redefine who you are in the family and how to interact with your family in a different way)
👉🏼 You experience reactivity when you’re with certain family members, and this is draining your energy
👉🏼 You’re wanting your family to meet certain needs, and you constantly feel disappointed with them (because they ultimately don’t show up for you in the ways that you truly need)
👉🏼 You find that your in relationships (romantic, platonic, professional) as an adult that are dissatisfying and wherein you’re not getting your needs met. There’s a deprivation and pain you feel in relationship that you can’t shake. Why won’t they just meet your needs?
Join us in this half-day retreat to
understand your family system better, reconfigure your place within it, and engage the holidays together fully without the friction, old patterns or legacy charge.
In this half-day retreat, you’ll walk away with:
✔️ Understand how to approach family time from a secure perspective informed by the Buddhist sense of non-clinging (aka enmeshment).
✔️ Learn how to fully engage your family on your own terms that honor your boundaries, growth and attachment healing journey (without taking everything they say and do so personally).
✔️ Gain more clarity about your family system, and begin to identify patterns that you see in other people that you are starting to see in yourself. See if you can see them clearly, see what you need from them clearly, and see the real possibilities of engagement so that you’re no longer working on the old maps, and so that you can live a more meaningful, satisfying life.
In the Family Archaeology Half-Day Retreat, we’re diving into:
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Gain Clarity: How to conduct your own family archaeological dig
We’ll dive into the components of understanding your family system and your own patterns, including:
✔️ How does the group emotionally regulate itself? Most people in the group are going to be using the same emotional strategies. The group is always going for balance
✔️ What roles do people have in the family system that keeps the family system as a whole in balance?
✔️ Who does the whole family have to manage? Does everyone walk around eggshells with dad, or mom?
✔️ If the kids are the ones being overmanaged by caregivers, which one is the designated problem? Which kid is the lost child? Which kid is the golden child?
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End the Pattern of Deprivation + Pave the New Path to Getting Your Needs Met
Free yourself of the resentment, guilt, shame, reactivity, and blame that you feel toward your family system (and toward yourself).
Learn the steps to take to end the pattern of deprivation that haunts your life, and to finally get your needs met.
When we do this, it not only helps us engage our family free of all that density, but it also allows us to build a life and relationships that support our meaningful and authentic life.
So, the question is: What are the legacy pains you’re holding onto? What are you expecting from others? We’ll dive into all of this in the retreat.
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How to Enjoy Family Time
And not only that, but how to enjoy family time, free of the ghosts of the past.
By understanding the patterns that have played out in your family…
By understanding your role in the family (and the roles others are playing in the insecure family system)…
By getting clear on what needs are unmet by your family…
By getting clear on how to actually get your needs met….
You can move forward in your life empowered, confident and clear.
Detangling these things and reconfiguring how you interact with your family, can ultimately shift how it FEELS to be with your family.
Tap into greater connection, love, clear boundaries and mutual respect.
Give me 4 hours on November 16th, and I’ll help you:
⚫️ Go home and actually enjoy the experience of going home.
Going home for the holidays can go from feeling tense and triggering, to neutral and steeped in clarity and gratitude.
⚫️ Tap into a sense of acceptance, and lighten the load.
We long to have our caregivers love us. If we can go have the experience and understand that they loved us the best they could, that is extraordinarily valuable for us and freeing.
⚫️ Get the freedom to involve yourself in the family as much (or as little) as you want without the afflictive guilt experience.
You get to choose to participate at the degree you want.
⚫️ No longer live in a state of deprivation anymore and go get your needs met from available sources today.
When we learn how to shift HOW we get our needs met as adults, and accept what our family is actually available for us, we then live from this empowered place in life (and actually get our needs met).
⚫️ See clearly the role you’ve been pigeonholed in in your family system (and step out of that role, if you’d like).
When you have clarity about this role-based family structure, you have the choice to participate that way or not going forward. Clarity leads to the capacity to step out of this story.
⚫️ Release the pressure to achieve that’s been placed on you by your family
Some people have a lot of pressure to achieve, but it’s coming from the caregiver. Others have no pressure to achieve, because the caregiver wants the child to meet their needs (this is about inhibiting their exploration). Some people use money to direct people around, and it’s really just done to keep you available to them. In this retreat, you’ll learn how to move beyond this pressure that’s projected onto you, into a life of authentic exploration on your own terms.
⚫️ Uncover what really happened that led to insecure attachment (and realize that it’s not your own failing that led to this).
In this retreat, you’ll gain new perspective on your family system and yourself. You’ll learn how to shift your understanding of your role and responsibility in all of this, offering you the freedom to step forward in your life without the guilt, shame or blame burdening you.
This Half-Day Retreat Is For You If
- You want to enjoy family time
(with less friction, tension and resentment)
- You’re ready to have your needs met,
and are done with the deprivation cycle
that’s defined your life.
- You want to enjoy secure relationships
(platonic, romantic, professional)
that don’t reflect your insecure family patterns.
“I'm better than I've ever been.”
“I just want to share, that it's been six years, a big journey, a big journey. But guess what? I've earned secure. Today I found out that I've earned secure. I know a lot of you won't know what that means, but some of you might. I got my attachment assessment inventory back today and I'm secure. I'm better than I've ever been.”
-Sia, Pop Star
Lena Dunham, writer and creator of the HBO television series Girls
“George Haas will take you back to a New York that feels both impossibly glamorous and unthinkably tragic, with the precision of a scalpel and the tenderness of Proust. This is a book for anyone who has loved and lost, and for everyone who wants to better understand the ties that bind us to the places we dream of returning to but are no longer there. George is a writer of uncommon grace.”
“The ordinariness of our lives is oftentimes rendered invisible. Where do we find meaning in the things we do have access to? In the ordinariness of finding meaning in life. This is what my photography explores.”
—George Haas, Founding Teacher of Mettagroup, Author and Photographer
FAQs
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Yes! If you can make it out live, we’d love to see you there. If you want to catch the replay, we’ll send it to you within 48 hours after the virtual retreat, via email.
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Attachment theory is an understanding of the instinctual drive to seek closeness to a caregiver who will provide protection and love, as well as support the development of your natural abilities.
By understanding this system, as well as your own attachment style (as well as the attachment styles of people in your life), you’re better equipped to act in secure ways, get your needs met, set aligned boundaries, and invest time and energy in reciprocally supportive relationships. This leads to having the capacity to live a more meaningful life, and to put your energy into your authentic passions, curiosity and purpose (and less energy in volatile relationships).
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Commonly referred to as "mindfulness," Vipassanā meditation is focused on living more peacefully, compassionately and wisely. Derived from the Theravada school of Buddhism, the techniques are widely acknowledged as effective ways to manage pain, stress, compulsiveness and are often used in conjunction with psychotherapy.
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No. We cannot tell you what your attachment strategy is without an Adult Attachment Interview.
This retreat is designed to address different attachment strategies and support people with their exploration (and moving beyond any blocks or complications that have held them back in the past).
If you're interested in learning more about your attachment strategy, please reached out to us here.